We all work through change at some point in our lives. More to the point, we frequently experience change, and often several changes at the same time. As universal as the experience is, there is precious little guidance on how to make it through. This is not a rational, linear process. There is a starting point and an ending point, and what happens in between is anything but predictable and easy. Which isn’t to say that there aren’t structures that we can understand, and ways through that we can find. We just need to know where to look.
Where we have been is in the past. We can explore it, but we can’t change it. Where we are is shaped by how we perceive current circumstances, and how we make sense of who we are and what flexibility and opportunity we have to shape our own destiny. Where we are going is a product of what we care about and value. And all of that depends on how we interpret our internal dialogue, and how we shape the messages that matter most.
Actually, the journey continues here. We don’t get a lot of do-overs in life. Life continues. We move forward. We build on what comes before. With luck, we learn from it. It’s part of us. Not only can’t we undo the past, it is pointless to try. What matters is what happens next.
In an alternate universe, I will be getting on a plane tomorrow and flying to the west coast. There, I will be spending a lovely, relaxing week with my bride of many years, visiting friends, reading, drinking wine, eating awesome food and taking time to breathe. In other words, embracing and enjoying life.
The past six months have been interesting. Challenging. Difficult. Not fun, although there have been fun elements. Not exactly happy, although there have been happy moments. I have been starting over. And starting over is hard.
This blog has been over two years in the making. The structure has been there, the content largely defined, and yet it never quite got to the point of launch. There were always things to finish; there was content to complete, links to find and earlier writing to incorporate. Ironically, the original purpose – to […]